Paving It Forward

Nothing new can come to us until we are grateful for what we already have.  When we give, we receive in like kind.  But let us understand that it is not WHAT we give, rather HOW we give, that deems what we receive through the law of giving.

If we give with a feeling of “obligation”, we resonate a feeling that will attract to us more experiences of “obligation”.  Instead, if we give with joy in our hearts, with gratitude for the opportunity to give, no matter how our gift is being received, then in this spirit, we resonate gratitude and joy.  In return, we receive so much more than the material value of what we have given!

A $10 gift does not create a $10 value from the Universe. A $100 gift does not deem a $100 reward from the Universe.  In the eyes of the world, the larger the material gift, the “more generous” the gift is perceived, but not by the Universe.  What is generosity?  It is not value of the gift, rather it is the value of the spirit in which the gift was given. We receive according to our spirit of generosity.

Are you generous?  Do you give in a spirit of generosity?

When we give in the right spirit, our own energy is continuously refreshed to give even more.  When we work willingly, we are surcharged with Divine energy and can accomplish anything!  On the contrary, when we do any task with an unwillingness, our energy is depleted, right from the beginning.  Have you ever felt fatigued after giving?  Ready to give up rather than give more?   If we ever feel depleted after giving, it means we have not given in the right spirit.  It is not WHAT we give, rather HOW we give.

To give in the right spirit, we must give, and then give some more.  Leave it up to the Universe to decide the source through which you will receive anything in return. Often it is not from the place we give, that we receive.

Nothing goes un-noticed in the Universe.  When you give, it is etched in ether, already creating a reciprocal gift for you to receive, based on your intention.

The world has an abundance of passionate dreamers, but so few people who are living passionately.  Living passionately takes one key ingredient:  awareness of The Present Moment.  It means releasing regrets of the past, getting out of the I’ll-be-happy-when future, and choosing to embrace the moment you are in with awareness and passion.  Otherwise I liken it to having your feet planted in two different boats.  If your goal is to live an inspired, passionate life, you must be fully committed to it, with both feet in. Introspect for a moment about your own life.  Are you living passionately now or are you still waiting for your lottery numbers to be called?

Here are four simple ways to bring passion and purpose into your life right now.

1. Release the doubt.

Doubt is one of the biggest passion killers.  We cannot put one foot in the boat of doubt, and the other in the boat of our dreams, expecting positive results.  Let me help you to banish doubt forever.  If you knew that it is the Divine who is desiring and dreaming through you, could you then accept the thought that your dreams and passions are already pre-destined for manifestation?

Whatever your desires are, remember this:  Your passion is God’s will for you.  God wants what you want! Relax and become aware that there is a Divine Plan manifesting around you and through you, supporting you in all ways to make your dreams come true.  Where do we get the inspiration for our dreams, if it were not God alone who was fueling the fire within us to create, experience and manifest?

2. Share your gifts.

What makes you unique?  What are your special gifts? Only you can give those gifts to the world. Don’t take them lightly! Start each day with the thought:  How can I use my gifts today to serve others?

Your life is God’s gift to you. What you do with your life, is your gift back to God.  As you share your gifts with others and the world, in the process you will discover what it is that you are most passionate about.  When you choose to serve with passion, the Universe will bring you more experiences to be passionate about.

3. Find your purpose.

For ten years I was private assistant to a billionaire who had his own fleet of private airplanes and I traveled the world working alongside global business leaders. It was no doubt a lifestyle that appeared easy to be passionate about.  In reality, grueling schedules and heavy demands would have been serious passion-killers had I not fostered the right attitude in my work.  I was easily on four to five flights a week. To others, it was a seemingly glamorous life.  I would often be asked “Elisabeth, of all the places you’ve been, where is your favorite place of all?”  I would get a startled look when I would respond by saying, “Wherever I’m landing.”

If you want to find your purpose in life, put purpose into each present moment, whatever you are doing at the time.  Wherever you are going, make it your favorite place.  Whatever you are doing, make it your favorite task; in that particular moment.  In this way, you bring purpose into your life, and you attract to yourself more ways to easily and naturally live on purpose.

4. Make the effort.

I began my spiritual journey two decades ago after discovering the ancient teachings of the Masters of India.  I didn’t just read a book or listen to a

lecture and call it a day.  I took the teachings very seriously and made the necessary outward changes in my life in order to foster an environment that would be compatible with the inner growth I desired.  A great spiritual master wrote:  “The only difference between you and me, is that I made the effort.”  That really impacted me.

Who is your mentor, your teacher, your idol? What is the difference between you and this person? Nothing! Whatever you want to accomplish in this life, do what it takes to make it happen.  Make the effort.  What will you do today to start living a passionate, inspired life?

We may not be able to change the way we behaved in the past, but we can change how we behave today. God gave us memory, not to re-hash the past and beat ourselves up, rather to remember the lesson.

Take any past challenging experience and ask yourself these questions:

1. Which thoughts, words and behaviors worked?
2. Which thoughts, words and behaviors didn’t work?
3. If I could re-live the scene with a new stage back-drop, what thoughts, words and behaviors would I choose, knowing what I know?

In the movie GroundHog Day, Bill Murray plays a character who is stuck in the same day, and re-lives it over and over again. Each day he wakes up and has a fresh crack at molding and perfecting it.

Our lives are no different. We get the same chance every day to get it right.

Starting today, from a new awareness, how will you think, speak and behave differently?

Seven Secrets for Deepening your Connection

Is your relationship all it’s cracked up to be? If not, Relationship Expert Elisabeth Fayt shares seven secrets to help you get crackin’!

According to Fayt, everything in life happens by choice, including your love life. She explains how you can choose from how people treat you to how much romance you experience. The first step is becoming aware of your thoughts, then consciously choosing thoughts that take you toward a deeper connection with your partner.

In her new book Paving it Forward, Fayt claims: “People spend more time choosing what they are going to wear in the morning than they do choosing how they will connect with people.” She teaches a method of conscious intention she calls Pre-Paving that lays the foundation for a life of love.

The seven secrets:

1. Pre-Pave Your Day. Every thought you think paves your next experience, beginning with your first thought of the day. Start each day by Pre-Paving “I will deeply connect with people today.” Continue consciously paving the day with positive Pre-Paves and watch how your relationship deepens. Pre-Paving Your Day is a method that catapults you from the victim’s chair into the driver’s seat of your life.

2. Expect the best. You can teach people how to treat you by expecting the best. Your expectations become your intentions. When you expect them to be kind, respectful and supportive, that is what you will find. Pre-Pave: “I expect the best. My partner is helpful, loving and kind.” Always speak highly of your partner because what you are saying, you are creating.

3. Whatever you want, give it first. Often when we don’t receive something, out of desperation, we pull back and stop giving it ourselves. Instead, when you want love, give it. When you want communication, communicate! Whatever you want, give it first, and you will find it coming back to you in spades. Make a list of the things you want from your partner, then Pre-Pave: “I focus on giving these the things I want.”

4. Be romantic. Romance is a verb not a noun. It is something you do, not get. Instead of waiting for your partner to be romantic, take the reins and be romantic yourself. The results are immediate! Pre-pave: “My life is full of romance” then get busy providing it!

5. Speak up. Tell your partner how amazing he is. If you don’t write your lines in his mind, he will write them for you. If left to his own devices, chances are his mind will turn to the dark side. We all need encouragement. Reassure him daily of the things you admire about him and add the Pre-Pave: “I am so proud of you.” He will become what you think of him.

6. Make date-night a positive experience. Before going out on a date, Pre-Pave before your date starts how you want to feel and what you want to experience. Example: “We’re going to have a great time tonight.” It will affect the outcome! You will line up the evening for whatever you’ve Pre-Paved.

7. Be more in love every day. Love is a choice. Choose to have your love grow, by Pre-Paving to your partner “I love you more today”. Don’t miss a day. Then look for reasons to love him more. What you look for, you will find, and with this Pre-Pave, your love for him will expand…because you’ve Pre-Paved it.

For more information on Elisabeth Fayt, her programs, seminars and retreats, visit www.pavingitforward.com

Part 4
Pre-paves that put you in the passing lane in 2010!

I love you more today.

Whether you’re single, married or whatever your status, we all want more love in our lives. Say this to the people you are closest to, and whenever you think of it, say it to life itself. The more you love, the more the Universe brings you to love.

I feel great today.

Did you know that you choose your own health every day?

I can remember speaking to someone who was telling me all about a surgery they had undergone. I commented to this person on how quickly they had recovered, and was then explained that the surgery had been ten years ago.

How often do we hold on to pains of the past, as though they were just yesterday.

We can choose our state of health, by the thoughts we choose to hold about our health.

I remember one day recently, I was scheduled to speak at three major events in one day. The night before, I went to bed with a scratchy throat, which for the average person often means a….(finish story)

I am worthy.

If we don’t write the lines in our head, the Universe will write them for us, or others will write them for us. Has anyone ever discouraged you from following your dream because they said it was “not realistic” or “improbable”.

Whatever negative self-talk we’ve had about ourselves, from ourselves, or from others has shaped our experiences. It’s time to let go once and for all and embrace our worthiness.

If you want to create your destiny and you want to create it FAST, this is truly the most powerful pre-pave that will get you there. Most people do their goal-setting and absolutely everything else to get them to reach their goals, and they forget this one last critical step, the process of feeling worthy.

When you pre-pave “I am worthy”.

Part 3
Pre-paves that put you in the passing lane in 2010

I am valued for what I do.

I spent ten years in the corporate fast lane as Private Assistant to a billionaire entrepreneur. I worked alongside some of the world’s most elite business leaders, politicians and successful people of all arenas. When I was hired, I was given a one-sentence job description: “Add value to my life.” Many people would have looked back with a stunned glare, wanting to ask again, “a job description, sir?” I knew this was going to be the opportunity of my lifetime.

I spent the next decade working alongside this man, his superstar friends, colleagues and business magnates, and I made it my full-time business to provide VALUE. The job was grueling and nothing less than severely challenging at times, but I persevered every stretch of the way.

Let’s talk about value. I remember often there would be times that I would see or hear of corporate employees complaining that they were under-valued or under-paid. Have you ever felt that you were under-valued or under-paid?

I will let you in on a secret of the Law of the Attraction. No one is ever under-valued or under-paid. We are valued and paid exactly to the same degree that we value ourselves.

When you focus on providing value, you will feel that you are of value. Until that time, you will not.

While all of those people are standing by the water cooler talking about how they are under-valued and under-paid, just watch how you soar above them like lightning streaking the sky.

My meetings are successful beyond my expectations

I built my business, RnR Wellness, using this one pre-pave. (tell story)

Use this pre-pave before any meeting! When you go into a meeting, pre-pave that your meeting is successful beyond your expectations.

Part 2
Pre-paving that will put you in the passing lane in 2010!
(passing lane means people don’t want the buffer of time, they want to get there now)

Let’s face it, in a perfect world, each one of us has the desire to be the best….the fastest, the best looking, the most talented, you name it, however you call it, we just want to be the best.

And we live in a fast-paced world. When we want something, we want it now.

As a law of attraction teacher, I work with people all day on how their thoughts create their reality. I get from people all of the time: Okay, how long do I have to be good, before I get the good stuff?

Your thoughts create your reality. All day you are intending, and what you intend, you create. Pre-paving is about choice. People spend more time choosing what they are going to wear in the morning than they do how they are going to connect with people, how they will feel or what they will accomplish. Pre-paving is consciously choosing how you want to look, live and feel through every part of your day and every part of your life.

Let’s start this new year by pre-paving what we want to take place in the 7 areas of our life: Money, Work, Love, Family, Health, Spiritual and Self.

(explain the following somewhere) When you pre-pave a positive thought, it sinks immediately down into your sub-conscious mind and creates your internal belief system. Everything you have in your life has been created by your internal beliefs. So if you want to change what you have on the outside, you need to merely change the programming on the inside.

Part 1
Pre-Paves that will put you in the Passing Lane in 2010

Make your dreams come true in 2010.

We live in a fast-paced world. When we want something, we want it now. And first of the year is the time we sit and reflect on what it is that we want. But how often does the excitement last, only to find yourself mid-January with a list of unfulfilled dreams.

Elisabeth Fayt will teach you how to pre-pave your new year. Giving you powerful pre-paves to use at work, in money, health, love and life, Elisabeth shows you how to get into the passing lane of life and create your dreams at warp speed.

By spring, you’ll be ready to set a new bar for brand new dreams to create!

New Years’ Pre-paves will teach you how:

1. to earn what you’ve always wanted to earn
2. to be more in love every day
3. the secret sauce to making your dreams come true

Each one of us has a past ~~ a history of life experiences. Some of those experiences we cherish and others perhaps we wish we never had. When we understand the correlation between our thoughts and our experiences, we can take responsibility and begin to consciously pave the road ahead of us.

If you focus on what you’ve left behind, you will never see what lies ahead.

Your power for creating is in the present moment. It is the only moment that exists. It doesn’t mean you pretend life didn’t happen up until now. Instead you learn, embrace and decide where you want to go from here. We are all blessed with the gift of memory, but it is only truly a gift when you understand its true purpose, which is two-fold: number one, to remember the good and number two, to remember the “lesson”. Otherwise, history repeats itself and the same mistakes are made over and over again.

Whatever you have in your life is not who you are, it is who you were.
Who you are is what you are thinking about right now.

Your thoughts are creating your next moment, your next week, your next year. Whatever is happening outside of you is a perfect match to what is going on inside of you. You are creating your reality with your thoughts, and life mirroring back to you with the purpose of helping you to understand yourself better.

No man is my friend. No man is my enemy. Every man is my teacher.

If you can look at people and circumstances in this way, you can release yourself from the heaviness of the details. Pass the test and release the rest. Until you do this, you will continue to attract the same sort of events and circumstances, until you “get it”. Introspect in your life. Aren’t the challenges often the same, just masked with a different name or place?

What happens to you does not matter as much as how you react to what happens to you. You have the ability to change the outcome of any situation, merely by changing your thought. Life is ten per cent what happens ~~ ninety per cent how you respond.

The average person, when confronted with negative people or events, has a tendency to feel bad, to emotionally be affected by it. When you understand the Law of Attraction, you will know that feelings are not a result of circumstance. Feelings are a result of your thoughts. When you think a certain way, you will feel a certain way ~~ period. No matter what you are doing, you can choose to focus your thoughts in the direction you want, by focusing on the solution or the lesson.

Pre-Paving is a great technique for putting your focus on the “now” and choosing what you want. People spend more time choosing what they are going to wear in the morning than they do choosing how they will connect with people, how they will feel or what they will accomplish. Pre-paving is consciously choosing how you want to look, live and feel through every part of your day.

A pre-pave is a statement or command that you think, say or write that describes what you want. Your command becomes your intention. The moment you pre-pave a command, the Universe begins to “line up the energy” to make it happen for you.

Here are some powerful pre-paves to help you learn from the past and consciously create your future. Practice these Pre-pave with belief and conviction, realizing your power to create.

I now see the perfection in this situation.

Change no circumstance in my life, change me.

I love my life.

There is nothing more important in the Law of Attraction than feeling great. Pre-paving makes you feel great. It changes your focus from what you don’t want to what you do want. It puts you into alignment for making your dreams come true, and that feels great! You can create the life you’ve always wanted ~~ one pre-pave at a time. The Universe is waiting for your next command ~~ what will it be?

Elisabeth Fayt
Author of Paving It Forward
www.elisabethfayt.com

by Elisabeth Fayt, best-selling author of Paving It Forward

Living passionately takes one key ingredient: awareness of The Present Moment. It means releasing regrets of the past, getting out of the I’ll-be-happy-when future and choosing to embrace the moment you are in with awareness and passion. Otherwise I liken it to having your feet planted in two different boats. If your goal is to live a passionate life, you must be fully committed to it, with both feet in.

Introspect for a moment about your own life. Are you living passionately now or are you still waiting for your lottery numbers to be called? Here are four simple ways to bring passion and purpose into your life right now.

Release the doubt.

Doubt is one of the biggest passion killers. Let me help you to banish doubt forever. If you knew that it is the Divine who is desiring and dreaming through you, could you then accept the thought that your dreams and passions are already pre-destined for manifestation? In fact, if you look at the pattern of your life, you would see that the Divine has been preparing you all along for what you are meant to do in this life. Relax and become aware that there is a Master Plan is already at work, making your dreams come true.

Share your gifts.

What makes you unique? What are your special gifts? Only you can give those gifts to the world. Don’t take them lightly! What are you doing each day to use those gifts to make a difference in the world? Start each day with the thought: How can I use my gifts to add value to the world today?

Find your purpose.

For ten years I was private assistant to a billionaire who had his own fleet of airplanes and I traveled the world working with global business leaders. It was no doubt a lifestyle that appeared easy to be passionate about. Reality be it, grueling schedules and heavy demands would have been serious passion-killers had I not fostered the right attitude in my work. I was easily on four to five flights a week. To others, it was a seemingly glamorous life. I would often be asked “Of all the places you’ve been, where is your favorite place of all?” I would get a startled look when I would respond by saying, “Wherever I’m landing.”

I made it my choice to be passionate about wherever I was going and whatever I was doing, from the exciting to the mundane. That, in itself, brings purpose to whatever you are doing. Passion is a choice. It is how we do things, not what we do. Often we keep searching for that special job or opportunity that we assume will bring purpose to our lives, yet purpose is to be found not in the what but the how.

Make the effort.

Who is your mentor, your idol? What is the difference between you and this person? Nothing. Whatever you want to accomplish in your life, do what it takes to make it happen. Make the effort. Living passionately requires effort, and a commitment to taking action. What will you do today to start living a passionate, magnificent life?